无锡协和双语国际学校有幸邀请到了华师大心理学专家，高级心理咨询师陈默教授给中学部做讲座。
陈教授分别给高中生与初中生做了两场题为《我的青春我做主》的心理学讲座。她风趣幽默、激情四射的演讲风格惊艳四座。高中讲座侧重学生的自我规划，价值观的形成，旨在让学生解决这些问题：时间如何分配?如何控制自我?学习究竟为了什么?我的人生目标在哪里?怎样与我的老爸老妈相处?怎样才能让别人喜欢我?
陈老师通过生活中一个个鲜活的实例让学生明白自我同一性，人与动物的区别，人之所以高级是因为人类懂得创造与学习，人有精神需求而动物没有。之后，陈教授谈到了高中生的“恋爱”问题，她强调爱情的三要素是激情、承诺、亲密。高中生除了短暂的激情，并不具备承诺与亲密的能力，所以还称不上爱情，这种美好的情愫是对异性的好感
初中场的讲座，侧重点是如何在青春期与他人相处。初中生表现积极，踊跃回答陈教授的问题，会场气氛活跃。大家还齐声朗读了“如何让友谊之树长青”，分享给各位：
教育心理学专家陈默走进无锡协和：现场互动
1. 主动开放——伸出你的友谊之手
2. 有礼貌——良好的礼貌由微小的牺牲组成
3. 不挖苦别人——多以言语和行动表示对别人的欣赏
4. 勇于认错——不肯说“对不起”是懦弱的表现
5. 留意自己的言行举止——粗鲁损坏一切
6. 严守秘密——对得起别人对你的信任
7. 尊重别人——一个人如果感到不被尊重，会被深深激怒
8. 坦诚——没有人愿意和虚伪的人交朋友
9. 不开过分的玩笑——万一玩笑过头，马上当众道歉，以免带来误会
10. 不要以自我为中心——坚持你的意见，同时接纳别人
The senior education psychologist Chen Mo from East China Normal University came to WUIS Secondary on May 19.
Professor Chen delivered two separate lectures to both Middle School and High School. The topic was ‘I am the master of my youth’. In the lecture for High School she talked about students self-management and personal values. She discussed the following questions with the students. How to be good at time management? What is self-control? What is the purpose of learning? What are my life targets? How do I get along with parents? How to be a popular person?
Professor Chen enables students to understand the difference between human-being and animals. Human beings have a spiritual side but animal do not. Professor Chen also shared the three elements of love they are passion commitment and intimacy. As the students do not have the three elements at all their feelings are only the good feeling for opposite side not true love at this stage.
In the lecture for middle school the content was about friendship. The students were very proactive in answering Professor Chen’s questions. Please remember the poem about friendship from the lecture.
Be helpful to give your hand to others
Be courteous—the greatest courtesy sometimes needs your compromise
Be positive—praise others with language and actions
Be brave—don’t afraid of apologizing
Be more reflective—refuse to be rude
Be trust worthy—keep a confidential
Be respectful—respect yourself and respect others
Be honest—no one wants to make friends with a shallow person
Be decent—no more trustful jokes
Be tolerant—hold your own opinion and accept others’
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